“Don’t underestimate me because I’m quiet. I know more than I say, think more than I speak and observe more than you know.” ~ Michaela Chung
I’ve always know that I’m an introvert. So when I took the Myers-Briggs questionnaire as part of a work-related exercise, it came as no surprise to me that I am classed as an INFJ personality-type. This table should explain that term to anyone unfamiliar with it:
I didn’t really think about it until lately, when a former college classmate had taken the questionnaire and asked me about my results. I told him that I was an INFJ and that I fully accepted this description of me. He seemed surprised, as an extrovert himself, that I considered myself introverted. I suppose, on the surface, I appear very comfortable in company and I am able to make idle small-talk with the best of them (topics of choice: the weather, whatever Trump has done this week, the rising cost of saffron), but I know myself that I am much more comfortable either by myself or with a small group of people whom I know well. It was what he said next that really sums up the misconception about introverts:
It’s just… aren’t introverts…like…a little weird and awkward?
Full disclosure: Yes, I can be a little weird and awkward. And there’s nothing wrong with that (okay, so I probably should be supervised using adult scissors and I definitely shouldn’t be left alone with your boss, but that’s just common sense). But come on, I’m not some bumbling Hugh Grant archetype who can’t string a coherent sentence together without peeing myself.
Introverts aren’t socially inept idiots. While we may not embrace social gatherings with the same enthusiasm as our extroverted counterparts, it doesn’t mean we don’t like or even enjoy them from time to time. It also doesn’t mean that we’re incapable of conversing with others in a meaningful way. Introverts tend to listen to and really think about what you are saying. It is only when one is quiet that you can really listen. We are contemplative and reflective. That is not necessarily a sign of shyness and most definitely not a sign of weakness.
I want to banish the misconception that introverts are somehow ineffectual loners who loathe human contact. You can be introverted and lead a fulfilling, successful life. You can work and socialise like any other person. You value your own company because it allows you time to think, to reflect, to create, to be.
Being alone doesn’t mean you’re lonely. Sometimes, I feel most lonely in a room full of people because a situation like that often prevents deep, meaningful communication. Conversations at social gatherings can be inanely superficial.
I’ve grown to love my own company. I love the silence of it (well, I’m sometimes silent… there are those days I get my Celine Dion on…). I love listening to my inner voice in that silence… although she’s usually telling me that she wants fro yo and a Storage Wars marathon.
So I’m choosing to own my introversion. I’m not ashamed of it, and you shouldn’t be either. In fact, without this aspect of my personality, I don’t think I would be blogging. It’s allowed me to be a much more introspective person and that’s key to personal blogging really, isn’t it? That and cats…lots of cats.
So tell me about your personality; are you an introvert? Or are you more extroverted? (nothing wrong with that, of course *awkwardly bumps you on the arm*)
I recently did a similar exercise at work using another system which I felt described very well. I feel even more comfortable in my work space knowing this and knowing my peers know this.
It’s a very useful exercise I think and I really related to it. Glad you found yours useful!
I am definitely an introvert too and can relate very well to all you said here. Yes, I think because we are introvert we are more thinking about what others say or let things sink before we react! I am fine with being an introvert and I don’t need the world to know everything about my little private place within either. Doesn’t that make some of the magic about us?
It really is about letting things sink before we react, you’re so right. I really contemplate everything a person says to me and I love to listen. We are definitely magic 😀✌️
LOL!!! We are 😄let’s keep spreading some mystery 😉
It may seem odd for me to say, but I do have a shy, introverted side. Yup. I am weird and awkward. 🙂
I wouldn’t have guessed but I suppose people would say the same for me! What about when it comes to performing your music? Just wondering!
I did this last week. I’m an INFJ too! 🙂 xxx
We’re the best kind if you ask me 😜x
Definitely agree. 🙂 xxx
I am a happy introvert but a reluctant extrovert as therapy! 😀
I guess it’s necessary every now and then, isn’t it? But great to be a happy introvert!
Yes it is!
I am also a happy INFJ. While I can make small talk when needed, I prefer to talk through the written word. It allows me the time to decide on what I want to say and how I want to express it. I believe that most introverts are happy that they are not extroverts.
Yes, that is so true. I am so much better at writing my feelings than verbalising them. And you’re right; I think we’re all more comfortable being this way. Thanks for stopping by!
Back in high school I was INTJ and I took the MBTI again and I got INFJ. But I’m slightly amused how on both occasions I still got Introvert 100% 😄
I’ve never been ashamed of my introversion as a kid but I’ve only recently started fully embracing and owning it in college. And I totally agree that we should know the difference on being alone and lonely.
Also Storage Wars. *whispers* Yessss
Haha, hello fellow INFJ!! It’s actually great to be introverted. I think we can be at peace by ourselves and that’s lovely. 🙌😀 thanks for your comment!
Yes, I agree.! I often think of myself as an introvert and can relate to things here. We think a lot before we act, not all of us loathe human interaction 🙂
Exactly! I think it’s more about being thoughtful and reflective rather than being awkward or reclusive. Thanks for reading!
This is great and very relatable. Also allowing me to laugh at myself at times, and I needed that. So thank you.
Aw thank you and I’m glad you liked it! It’s nice to meet you and thanks for stopping by 🙂
I’m an Introvert too. And I have also learnt to love my own company! Wonderful post:)
Thank you so much for reading! And yay for being introverted 🙂