Own Your Introversion 

“Don’t underestimate me because I’m quiet. I know more than I say, think more than I speak and observe more than you know.” ~ Michaela Chung

I’ve always know that I’m an introvert. So when I took the Myers-Briggs questionnaire as part of a work-related exercise, it came as no surprise to me that I am classed as an INFJ personality-type. This table should explain that term to anyone unfamiliar with it: 

Source: Wikipedia

I didn’t really think about it until lately, when a former college classmate had taken the questionnaire and asked me about my results. I told him that I was an INFJ and that I fully accepted this description of me. He seemed surprised, as an extrovert himself, that I considered myself introverted. I suppose, on the surface, I appear very comfortable in company and I am able to make idle small-talk with the best of them (topics of choice: the weather, whatever Trump has done this week, the rising cost of saffron), but I know myself that I am much more comfortable either by myself or with a small group of people whom I know well. It was what he said next that really sums up the misconception about introverts: 

It’s just… aren’t introverts…like…a little weird and awkward? 

Full disclosure: Yes, I can be a little weird and awkward. And there’s nothing wrong with that (okay, so I probably should be supervised using adult scissors and I definitely shouldn’t be left alone with your boss, but that’s just common sense). But come on, I’m not some bumbling Hugh Grant archetype who can’t string a coherent sentence together without peeing myself.

Although I can relate to this so much. Dammit Hugh.

Introverts aren’t socially inept idiots. While we may not embrace social gatherings with the same enthusiasm as our extroverted counterparts, it doesn’t mean we don’t like or even enjoy them from time to time. It also doesn’t mean that we’re incapable of conversing with others in a meaningful way. Introverts tend to listen to and really think about what you are saying. It is only when one is quiet that you can really listen. We are contemplative and reflective. That is not necessarily a sign of shyness and most definitely not a sign of weakness. 

I want to banish the misconception that introverts are somehow ineffectual loners who loathe human contact. You can be introverted and lead a fulfilling, successful life. You can work and socialise like any other person. You value your own company because it allows you time to think, to reflect, to create, to be.

Being alone doesn’t mean you’re lonely. Sometimes, I feel most lonely in a room full of people because a situation like that often prevents deep, meaningful communication. Conversations at social gatherings can be inanely superficial. 

I’ve grown to love my own company. I love the silence of it (well, I’m sometimes silent… there are those days I get my Celine Dion on…). I love listening to my inner voice in that silence… although she’s usually telling me that she wants fro yo and a Storage Wars marathon. 

So I’m choosing to own my introversion. I’m not ashamed of it, and you shouldn’t be either. In fact, without this aspect of  my personality, I don’t think I would be blogging. It’s allowed me to be a much more introspective person and that’s key to personal blogging really, isn’t it? That and cats…lots of cats. 

So tell me about your personality; are you an introvert? Or are you more extroverted? (nothing wrong with that, of course *awkwardly bumps you on the arm*) 

Come tell me in the comments! 

24 thoughts on “Own Your Introversion 

  1. Gary Lum says:

    I recently did a similar exercise at work using another system which I felt described very well. I feel even more comfortable in my work space knowing this and knowing my peers know this.

  2. Erika Kind says:

    I am definitely an introvert too and can relate very well to all you said here. Yes, I think because we are introvert we are more thinking about what others say or let things sink before we react! I am fine with being an introvert and I don’t need the world to know everything about my little private place within either. Doesn’t that make some of the magic about us?

  3. Norm Houseman says:

    I am also a happy INFJ. While I can make small talk when needed, I prefer to talk through the written word. It allows me the time to decide on what I want to say and how I want to express it. I believe that most introverts are happy that they are not extroverts.

    • janeybgood says:

      Yes, that is so true. I am so much better at writing my feelings than verbalising them. And you’re right; I think we’re all more comfortable being this way. Thanks for stopping by!

  4. Kate says:

    Back in high school I was INTJ and I took the MBTI again and I got INFJ. But I’m slightly amused how on both occasions I still got Introvert 100% 😄
    I’ve never been ashamed of my introversion as a kid but I’ve only recently started fully embracing and owning it in college. And I totally agree that we should know the difference on being alone and lonely.
    Also Storage Wars. *whispers* Yessss

    • janeybgood says:

      Haha, hello fellow INFJ!! It’s actually great to be introverted. I think we can be at peace by ourselves and that’s lovely. 🙌😀 thanks for your comment!

  5. jayrenfryn says:

    This is great and very relatable. Also allowing me to laugh at myself at times, and I needed that. So thank you.

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